I often see a lot of girls on social media posting pictures with phrases that say “bones are for dogs” or “real men like curves”, which I just can’t seem to understand. How would you know what every single man likes? Men like all sorts of women, in every shape and every size. Just like woman like men in every shape and size.

Do girls only say this because they are so uncomfortable with their own body?  Do they only feel good about themselves when they tear someone else down? Do they genuinely believe men don’t like skinny girls?

When did girls become so hateful toward each other? When did it become socially acceptable to tell someone that they do not deserve love because they look a certain way?

 You need to love yourself! Love your curves or your bones. Your freckles. Your small boobs or your big ones. Your flat ass and your big eyes. The gap in your teeth or your crooked nose. Confidence in contagious.  If YOU feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you too (although it does not really matter what other people think as long as you are genuinely happy).

There is no need to bring down other women in order to make yourself feel better. You can feel good about yourself simply by building other woman up. Pay it forward each and every day, as often as you can. Woman already deal with so much, it is unnecessary to tear each other down for things out of our control. Body shaming, whether it is shaming big or skinny girls, is never okay.

Men have always had the right idea though. They do not focus on comparing their appearance to other men or tearing down other men so they look better, so why do we? Is it jealousy? Is it envy? Maybe even hate? Who really knows…

What I do know is women need to learn how to love other women. Love their imperfections. Love their beauty. Love their talents. Love them for whoever they choose to be.

Today, and every day, I challenge you to compliment at least one woman. Whether you like her shoes or her lipstick, the way she sings or the way she dances, tell her! Today’s generation of women need to show future generations that being kind to one and other in a must! We each need to offer support and kindness to each other instead of hate.

I have worked in a restaurant for over six years. There are an array of customers that I have come across in that time. The person who will complain to get meals for free, the person who refuses to tip, and the person who believes they can speak to restaurant help whatever way they please.
 
First, there are a few things everyone should know before going to any sort of restaurant:

1. Servers do not cook your food. In the case that your food is not prepared correctly, do not scream at the server. Robots also did not cook your food, so try to be understanding. We are only human and occasionally we do make mistakes. When you cuss and scream, you look like an asshole.

2. Hourly employees, and even mangers, do not decide menu prices, owners and franchise executives do. In the situation that your favorite item on the menu went up in price, and you find the need to ramble on very rudely about how it is now even more overpriced, remember, you CHOOSE to go out to eat. If you do not want to spend a little bit of money, please cook at home because you look like a cheap asshole.

3. Servers do not make the schedule and decide how many employees will be working. Sometimes restaurants get busy and are slightly under prepared, so your food may take longer than normal. Do not ask ten times what is taking so long when you can clearly see every person in the restaurant is busting their butt. If you cannot take a hint and still find the need to ask, please know you look like an impatient asshole.

4. Tips should be based upon service. Going out to eat, getting a drink at a bar, and getting food delivered all requires a tip. If your food sucked, the music playing was terrible, and other customers annoyed you, but the service was good, a tip is required. Not tipping, when a tip is due, makes you look like the worst kind of asshole.
 
Second, there are ways to be a good customer and make your experience more enjoyable:

1. Good customers have manners. ‘Please’ and ‘thank you’, go a long way.
2. Good customers realize people working in the food and service industry make next to nothing in hourly wages and rely on tips to survive.
3. Good customers realize prices are so cheap in restaurants because employees are paid so little, because customers are expected to tip, which compensates for that missing pay.
4. Good customers do not yell, cuss, and cause scenes inside of a business.
5. Good customers do not have unreasonable expectations. For example, going to a two star restaurant and expecting five star food and service.
6. Good customers realize we are all just humans, trying to make some sort of money and get through the day.