Stop with the hate, start with the love

I often see a lot of girls on social media posting pictures with phrases that say “bones are for dogs” or “real men like curves”, which I just can’t seem to understand. How would you know what every single man likes? Men like all sorts of women, in every shape and every size. Just like woman like men in every shape and size.

Do girls only say this because they are so uncomfortable with their own body?  Do they only feel good about themselves when they tear someone else down? Do they genuinely believe men don’t like skinny girls?

When did girls become so hateful toward each other? When did it become socially acceptable to tell someone that they do not deserve love because they look a certain way?

 You need to love yourself! Love your curves or your bones. Your freckles. Your small boobs or your big ones. Your flat ass and your big eyes. The gap in your teeth or your crooked nose. Confidence in contagious.  If YOU feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you too (although it does not really matter what other people think as long as you are genuinely happy).

There is no need to bring down other women in order to make yourself feel better. You can feel good about yourself simply by building other woman up. Pay it forward each and every day, as often as you can. Woman already deal with so much, it is unnecessary to tear each other down for things out of our control. Body shaming, whether it is shaming big or skinny girls, is never okay.

Men have always had the right idea though. They do not focus on comparing their appearance to other men or tearing down other men so they look better, so why do we? Is it jealousy? Is it envy? Maybe even hate? Who really knows…

What I do know is women need to learn how to love other women. Love their imperfections. Love their beauty. Love their talents. Love them for whoever they choose to be.

Today, and every day, I challenge you to compliment at least one woman. Whether you like her shoes or her lipstick, the way she sings or the way she dances, tell her! Today’s generation of women need to show future generations that being kind to one and other in a must! We each need to offer support and kindness to each other instead of hate.

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